Balance - What is that ?
Posted on September 27 2018
Balance - What is that ?
Over the summer Serena Williams posted a picture stretching atop a cliff with the sun either rising or setting in the background. You can only clearly see the silhouette of her figure. She starts the caption “Last week was not easy for me. Not only was I accepting some tough personal stuff, but I was just in a funk. Mostly, I felt like I was not a good mom.”
Serena, I know the feeling.
At the heart of Serena’s post was this idea of balance and the pressure we feel as women, especially when it comes to our roles as moms.
Balance is an ongoing struggle, there is no perfect balance, it’s always a juggling act. As a single mom to an energetic and intelligent five year old and as an entrepreneur with a growing company and as a human being I am constantly pulled in different directions. Lamara the mom, Lamara the entrepreneur, and Lamara the person are all facets of who I am. Together they make the whole Lamara, and separately they each require energy. There’s so much I want to do and do it well, it is a constant give and take.
For example, I can get Ainkas into a rhythm, sustaining goals, sales are up, doors seem to be opening, and then BOOM, I get a call from my son Kyan’s school. “Ms. Davis can you come in for a parent teacher conference?” Instantly, I begin questioning myself.
Have I been so focused on the business that I’ve neglected my son? Did I do something wrong? Am I good enough? Can I do this?
I’ll redirect my energy to make sure he’s back on track, find a renewed confidence in the life that I’ve built for us and then I’ll look in the mirror and realize, I’m drained. Lamara, the individual is a mess, I haven’t done anything to refuel myself because I’ve been tending to the needs of my son and my business. The doubts roll in like shoppers on Black Friday.
How am I suppose to manage all of this? Can I keep this up? Maybe this isn’t for me?
This struggle is constant. I do not have an amazing inspiring answer for how to solve it either. What I do trust in is that where I am short God will fill in the gaps. For all my women, moms, entrepreneurs, sisters, lovers, friends who need to hear it, you are not alone. I rest in the fact that everyday I wake up I am doing my best and everything is going to be ok. I keep working everyday because there is no perfect balance, all we can do is set out our intentions and put our best foot forward daily.
As always I hope that I have encouraged and uplifted you to know we are all in this together. You too, can do what you love, with people you love, and live out your passion. You are powerful and complete.